Truth to - maybe to -lie.

Lie turning into truth in 2 days.

It is what we say to ourselves and how we allow others to influence our own truth. Many times after a sexual assault people try to sugar-coat, or even get the victim to “see” they do not really understand what happened to them. As well as others who know fully they can silence a survivor if they continue to feed a pattern of lies until those lies turn into truth for the victim.

While I was in the military I saw it hundreds of times, the victim saying they had been assaulted and the officer coming back with “well it might seem to have been that away” to by the end of the interview it was “yes we understand you thought this happened and we are okay that you recognize your mistake, thanks for coming to your senses.” Hard to see it when you only have the beginning statement and the end, what you do not see is the systematic ability to influence a victim into not just questioning their own version of the event but accepting the lies they are being told.

I saw it happen very innocently for a minor silly lie that really meant nothing during the art symposium this past week. This small lie was a joke in the beginning, it hurt nobody, it really did not matter to anyone, but it happened so easily and the person, once they were reminded of the lie could not believe it.

I was at this workshop, which really was just an all the time thing, Creation Station, a great idea to have art supplies out and you can just come in and create, no instruction, just grab and go, sit and talk, or sit and be quiet, no pressure, great. I would occasionally head to there when I did not have any women in the Woman’s Retreat Room. I could see if any women headed that way so it was perfect. I began to do a painting, just colors that I felt belonged on the canvas, abstract art. At the same time another was doing a beautiful picture of a tree. After my head injuries my ability for my hands to do what I want in precise detail to needed to do a painting of a tree that looked like a tree is gone. Another reason that I like abstract art, I am not remembering what I lost because of the injuries, dwelling on the past, my old self, just expressing the love for my own art now.

So here this beautiful picture of a tree is sitting waiting to dry, by it is my much smaller group of emotional colors that evoke happy joy of being to me. A person comes by and comments on the tree, how beautiful it is, (after commenting on how they liked my painting), but I liked the tree better than mine, in that if the two were at auction, I would bid on the tree. So out of just jokiness I thanked her for the comment on my tree. It was a joke and I immediately stated it was not mine, but the ability (from being law enforcement) of me to lie and it seem totally truthful overtook the person, they walked away and I, as well as the others sitting there, thought she knew the truth, that it was not my tree.

I saw a woman and headed to my room and a few hours later returned, the person in charge of the station, a wonderful woman with sincere love for people, commented that the person had returned and talked about my tree again, and that she had believed it really was mine, that the joking was that it wasn’t, not that it was. So we laughed and throughout the next two days joked about my tree.

At the end of the symposium I went to retrieve my painting, which I had added other stuff to and let sit there to dry. When I got there I said that I was there to pick up my painting, she looked and said that she could not find my tree. At first I thought she was joking, it was a running joke, we had talked about my tree for the past 2 days as if it was real, but an underlined joke. I looked to her and said what tree and she had not noticed that just saying it like it was true for the past 2 days, she now believed that it was my tree. I reminded her that it was a joke, that I had not painted a tree, and she stood there for a minute and the “wow” expression that came over her face, that in such a small amount of time, of pretending it became fact, real fact that not only did I have to state it was a lie but give her time and remind her of the exact situation why it was said that I painted a tree.

A simple lie, really a joking lie and a running joke that pretended a lie, two days later and it was fact for the very person who was there when I painted the abstract painting, who was next to the person who really painted the tree, which took hours next to her to do. She was there for hours next to the person, periodically looking over, watching the beginning of just blank canvas moved through the strokes to a beautiful tree. I was only there for my 10 minute abstract work then took credit for the tree, but in two days, of here and there talking about it, pretending I had painted a tree, and this person’s truth had change completely, and I was not even trying.

So think about if it was purposeful, that I had the position of authority (law enforcement, supervisor, in your chain of command, counselor, others) to purposely make that lie into truth. Like I stated, I have been taught (and very well) from the military how to lie, how to tell someone a complete lie and not give away any of the signs. When I remember the lie, make my eyes move from one place to another, to not curl the lip, to not squint, not look away, not look down, not have my voice change, not have the tempo of my voice change, to at the same time I am telling the person my name, there being no difference as I say I painted the tree. When you pretend the lie long enough it can become truth. I knew full well that at the final day she really believed that I painted the tree, and it was not just a simple, “remember I did not,” for her to remember the real truth. She knew I painted the tree at that moment as much and with the same conviction as when I first stated I painted the tree and she knew that I did not.

This tactic is used very often to victims to make them change what they know is the truth, to what the other would like the truth to be. It works by applying enough of the truth to make the mind slowly re-remember something else. I had painted a painting. I had been proud of my painting, it had been complimented on, I was there at the same time the other painting was being done, and I can lie really really well, to people’s faces and that is the tactic. It is not a statement on some form that it happened another way, it is to their face, agree with enough that you have them thinking you are helping them, then add what you need by small bits. Sometimes it starts with just a wondering question, “do you really think he thought that,” then it’s the adding in a form of a question, “maybe he thought…”, then you slowly change the way they perceived what happened until they are questioning their own thoughts and memories, accepting the other, denying their own. They came to law enforcement because they were under the assumption we all were there to serve and protect. They came for help from the ones who are there (their job) to help. They have seen law enforcement help, maybe even the same person they are talking to. They have been taught that they are there to help. But the biggest lie around is that there are ones who are not, not to serve you, not to protect you, not to help you. I saw it over and over, the assaulted soldier, the abused wife, the bruised girlfriend, the American civilian, the civilian, “maybe he…?” Do not think that this is something that happens only to the ones who assume, I knew exactly what they did, I knew how they felt, I heard from their own mouths their thoughts on the subject, and yet, when I was assaulted and I took it to my captain (law enforcement), I actually listened to the “maybe’s” not as much had I not known, but after that, after Social Actions asked “maybe” after my first sergeant asked “maybe” after the IG asked “maybe,” my truth began to turn to the lie of “maybe.”

Even recently (a few years ago) when I had the feelings, when I saw the red flags, when I knew, I had professionals, coworkers, supervisor, ask “maybe,” and I started to question my own truth to Maybe. I went to people who I thought had my best interests in mind, they did not. That is one reason why I continue to write in my journals, and if I have a question I turn to what I was thinking, feeling, knowing at the time, first. I turn to the truth and continue to remind myself that their maybes are NOT mine, their maybes are not true, their maybes are the same as the beautiful tree I painted.

Guilt.

Guilt.

I know this has been talked about before, but it is such a big part of MST, the more information someone knows the better.

At the art symposium that I recently had the opportunity to be at, that seemed to be the main thought from many of the women which I spoke with, the guilt of it all. I listened to numerous stories of horrific experiences, all of which none of them had any responsibility. One of the reasons that I do not believe that many self-help books that are designed to help with PTSD should be used for PTSD from experiencing MST is that many ask you to write what responsibility or choices you had in the trauma which are yours to own. I do not care if you ran down the street naked, if a guy (or woman) chooses to assault you, that decision is all upon them.

I understand the risk factors associated with many choices but that matters not. The ultimate choice, the person who did the choosing was the perpetrator. So let’s hit some of them, yes, being drunk diminishes your ability to do many functions, but so does sleeping, and being on certain doctor prescribed medications. Being with a bunch of military guys alone puts you at a disadvantage, but so does being shorter, so does going to your room alone, so does going to the bathroom out in a combat zone.

Why do we as survivors continue to find guilt in what happened? I can make the most stupidest choice, but that does not make it a “green light” to be assaulted or harassed. I personally do not write about male MST from the first person, because I am not a man. I do not know what it is like to be assaulted or sexually harassed as a man. But there are many responses which cross between men and women for MST experiences – guilt. The guilt goes across genders. Although the reasons behind the guilt can be different. Many of my male MST survivors have told me the biggest reason they said nothing and felt guilt is because they are men, they are supposed to “be strong,” to be the protector, not the weak link. But it is not weak to be an MST survivor. There is nobody in this entire world who can protect themselves from everything all the time. It is difficult for many people to come to the realization that they themselves are vulnerable, that picking through circumstances of the assaults to find what they “should” not do, or do to make sure they are never a victim is useless. Just as anything in life there are risk factors, there is a risk factor for driving but if you got blindsided while driving does anyone ever ask “what were you doing driving?” To actually live in this world is a risk.

It pains me to hear other women veterans who have not been assaulted or repeatedly sexually harassed to list any reason that they were not assaulted or harassed. The thought that any person thinks they can list why they were not a victim, I am here to reveal something, it was because someone did not choose to do that to you, that is the only reason. I have heard from “I did my job” to “I let them all know how it was” and other such statements that live in denial, it not only does not help, it is a lie, not purposeful, but still a lie. I will open my experiences up to help you with this, I did my job, and I actually did my job better than my male peers (they knew it, I knew it, command knew it, and every once in awhile someone from outside my squadron would remind them of it). Since doing my job well made me a target, does that mean that you were a slacker to not be a target? Doesn’t feel good does it, to be called out on something that is not true. Let us move on, after my rape, I pretty much told everyone if they even thought about assaulting me that I would say nothing, I would get my weapon for the night find them and kill them. It was not a baseless threat, I meant every word of it. Did that keep me safe, no. Did it mean that other tactics had to be used, yes. The only reason that my fellow K-9 handlers made it out of Saudi Arabia alive, had nothing to do with them. It was the fact that I thought I had seen one of them, I automatically (totally without thought) went for my weapon, thank heaven I had not been given it back yet because it was not him, I just thought it had been. I knew if I was given a weapon when I did see him I would kill him and I did not want someone (like this guy who looked like him) someone who was innocent to be hurt because of what others had done. That was the only reason, it was not that I thought that killing him was wrong, morally I knew that it was and I was completely willing to live with that for the rest of my life. I could not live with someone else being hurt (as in another guy, not any emotional pain of family member of the perp, I am sorry but their pain I did not care about), but someone who was just there or happened to look like any of them. I said I could not carry a weapon around them anymore, lucky them.

I also want to squash the “I did not allow myself to get too drunk to not take care of myself” – I have never had a drop of alcohol, did not help protect me. How about the I did not sleep around? I was a virgin when I was raped. I had someone who critiqued one of my memoir books state that because I did not go out drinking with the guys I purposely ostracized myself, pretty much telling them I was not one of them. Oh, yea, right, (sarcasm)but I did go out with them at times, some did not know that I did not drink until they ordered me what I loved, a pina’ colada, and I asked if it was virgin (without alcohol). But had I drunk with them, someone would have come along and said that I should not have drunk with them, making myself vulnerable.

That is the thing, that is what many do not understand, all the “should have” and “should not haves” mean nothing, it did not matter, so had I slept around then I was a slut and “deserved it?” Had I drunk with the guys “I should have known what would happen.” Had I this, had I that, had I not this, had I not that…No matter what this or that is, someone would try and used it to rationalize that what happened had something to do with my choices, it DID NOT! The choice was the perps and theirs alone, so the guilt is the perps and theirs alone.

Still questioning at what level I will be as advocate.

Still thinking about it.

I know you are all on the edge of your seats to hear how it went at the Military Experience& the Arts Symposium. Okay, maybe not at the edge of your seat. This was huge for me. I did not know how it would go, how I would respond and if I would be able to do all the days. I did.

It was totally worth it that I got to help others again, to really make a difference in someone else’s life, make a positive difference. Not for some deep wanting need to feel as though I am worth something (which is a reason many MST survivors volunteer instead of getting the help they need first), but to put positive out into the world from the negative that was done to me and others.

It was not even close to what I used to be able to do. I did not get any sleep at the hotel, I had my schedule all messed up, so my meds were all wonky, and then at the last moment I had to change the lecture to a question and answer presentation. The off schedule of sleep and meds made my nerves shake, not out of fear but like a caffeine overdose, and then I started, it just hit me. It was as if I had never been in front of people talking before. I was nervous beyond belief.

My brain was lost, the “if it can happen” did. I was told that I could walk the floor, keep at least my body moving, but the mic did the ear bleeding ring a few times and I had to ditch it. The pressure from storms in the area were making my ability to stand, and even walk without help difficult. I wanted to just say that I was sorry and walk away. I knew it wasn’t going to be even close to what I have done before, and I did not want to disappoint the people who were sitting there and the people who had given me this opportunity (I did not tell anyone, except on this blogg, but I knew they did not know what had happened, that I had dump all the advocacy, dump the writing, dump most of life).

Why not tell them? I did not want that to influence the lecture, to have them look at me with the “we did not know, we’re so sorry” look. I was there as a professional and even if I never stepped out in the public again like that, for me I had to go through it. When I changed it to the question and answer format I still did not want them to know why. I did not want anyone to be afraid of asking a question, afraid of commenting, afraid of disclosing what happened to them. I knew they would all have on their minds wanting to make sure that I was not triggered, softer on me, but again, that was not what I was there for. I understand that people have the best intentions in mind, but walking around me like I am some fragile thing that at any moment if they say something wrong I will be devastated. It is another downside of having been through trauma, treated with baby gloves thinking that is what I need.

It was hard and there were times that I could continue, but I held it together and finished. Of course I was the introduction to someone who was a professional at speaking, and even his comment off what I had said, I had to take like a professional and not personal. I had no idea that I would revert back as if I had not done that before, back to the nervousness of speaking in front of people, nervousness that I would forget everything that I knew, or say something that was wrong, or, you know, the “what if’s” forward. Even my vocabulary went to the basics, and at a point I was responding defensively, but caught myself. The whole time I censored my answers, took the feeling out of what I was saying, made it clinical.

I could beat myself up for not giving a good professional presentation about MST, for not going through with the exact format that had been put on the program. But what would that accomplish? I could rationalize that it would had been better if I started out letting the audience know what had happened to me, that I had pretty much dumped life for the past two years because of Community Healthcore and what Lori had perpetrated on me. All would understand and most would be sympathy, but I cannot use my past to make others treat me differently. It would give me a crutch to not move forward, something to use to not progress pass a certain point and say that because of what Lori did I would never be able to get through it, to integrate it and just accept that it had effected my life, immensely. Another new normal.

But I pushed through it, I know that it was not my best work, and I am okay with that. I know I am pretty much starting all over with the speaking, and I am okay with that. I know I am going to be nervous for a long time getting back to where I had been, and I am okay with that. I know that I am not going to go back to exactly what I did before, I have reconfigured my professional business card, to say, for speaking with others about MST.

I also noticed my interaction with other veterans was different, my stories were censored and I talked a lot more than I usually do. I think it was an unconscious attempt to put myself back into the veteran community, like nobody knew who I was and what I had been through, and a tendency to tell others, through my experiences, that I was qualified to talk about what I did, and that I was qualified to be in conversations. Just like when I first left the military, I had to “prove” that I was more than what they were thinking my military experiences were. The “proving” I should be in the military, law enforcement, K-9 handler, in that mindset that I had been there and done that and do not dismiss me because I am a woman. Although women were not supposed to be in combat, the minor few of us (back then) who’s jobs put us in places that other jobs would not, and were, it was a “hey.” Just like when all the news about women being attached to combat units for the “first” time. I understand it, but I wanted all to know that me, and before me, women have been in combat, and not just as nurses, but as combatants. Just because policy changes does not mean that it never happened before policy changed. There are many time when women are doing or being long before media headlines state “first woman…” There are the “first women” but for many things that seem to be firsts, but they really are not. Maybe first in this country, maybe first in this decade, but for women in combat, side by side with the men, well I will just point to Joan of Arc, very well documented, very in combat, and still not the first.

There were a few questions that were raised while I was there, and I wanted to respond to them, as I did most of them there.

Q. Is there more men who have experienced MST?

A. Yes, the number of men who have experienced MST is much higher than the number of women, but there are two things to understand. There have been much much more men in the military than women, and there is a higher percentage of women who experience MST. Pretty much the only reason there are more men who have experienced MST is that there have been and are more men in the military. Even though, either men or women, both is wrong, both have a higher rate of PTSD than other military traumas, even than other civilian sexual assaults.

Q. Isn’t MST a worse trauma than combat traumas?

A. Traumas do have some level of severity over others. No two traumas are the same, and rating them just lessens all traumas. Yes, MST survivors have a higher percentage of PTSD than combat survivors (militarily speaking), but understand there is a wide range of possibilities for experiences in both. I used my own perspective, the betrayal of the experience (for me) was what hurt the most. I have no ownership in the assaults, but I do have some ownership and responsibility in the combat. It is different for every person, but one is not more traumatic than the other because it is just not an experience in a bubble, it is an experience to a person who has a life-time of experiences behind them, unimaginable variables.

I made a statement that not all sexual harassment is traumatic, and someone asked Q. who says.

A. I said “I did, not to be rude but I had really never thought anyone thought this way. I realized that again, the definition of sexual harassment for me (clinical) and for the person (emotional and traumatic) was where communication was off. No, not all sexual harassment is traumatic, traumatic is not hurt feeling, feeling humiliated, embarrassed, traumatic is trauma and even though it does take a little out of how a person felt about it, there is more to it. Clinically if a person reacts to normal life experiences (bad ones) as if they are traumatic, it is their own character flaw. A coworker comes up and makes an off comment about sex, that is sexual harassment, but it is not traumatic. The experience on its own does not go in the line of traumatic.

During the question and answer period a guy felt the need to help explain the difference between restricted and unrestricted reporting. I think both of us were not understanding the other. But as I said then, I do not agree with restricted reporting saying I can only speak to 4 people who already have been chosen, that is called silencing by policy. I either allow all to know or I do not get to tell my closest confidants? That should not be a choice. The other problem with it is that not everyone deploys with all those 4 positions.

Trust is truly an issue with most MST survivors. And I was asked (not during the presentation but alone) how do you tell who to trust and who not to. This is where the past has given me experiences (I wish I never went through) that answer this. What Lori purposely did to me was horrid, but I had a feeling about her, one of those gut feelings. As stated in previous posts, I listened to “professionals” instead of myself. It is hard to tell who you can trust and who you cannot. Think of it this way, how many people get married and think nothing will ever separate them and they tell each other everything, then they divorce and use that every information to drive a knife deep into the other. There is really no way to know, so I do the bit by bit. I give small information and see how that is taken, and so forth. I now and not going to listen to any professional when I have that gut feeling that there is something off, I do not care what is off, I am not about to dismiss my own feelings. Does this mean at times I am wrong, yep, but I would better be wrong and not trust than to trust and go through what I did. There is a bit of faith, but I do still not tell all. I have never and I will never, there is no need for any other person on this earth to know all of what I have been through, all my thoughts, not even my husband. I trust one thing, I trust one way and I trust one person, I trust God (through Jesus Christ) to know everything, to hear everything and I can tell everything to. I trust that no matter what I do, no matter what happens to me, I will always be loved in the very same way by Him. Humans, sorry but after what I have been through, you have to prove you are trustworthy, no matter what. There are people who I trust with tons, others I trust with knowing my name.

I still have not decided if I am going to go back to speaking, but even if I do it will not be the same. I cannot go back to the lecture format, I would rather do the question and answer, but I will start with a little more information than I did this past time.

Weight gain on meds.

Downside to antidepressants. Of course there are many downsides, side effects to taking any medications, but this has a viscious cycle all its own. Many antidepressants cause weight gain, they do not necessarily give energy, so you do not get any more energy but you do have the tendency to add pounds. Along with that many MST survivors wrongly attribute what they looked like to their being assaulted. I did this. While I was in the military I swear not a day went by when someone did not comment (not appropriate or appreciated) on some aspect of my body. I was the one who could eat whatever I wanted and it seemed to dissipate into the air. Mostly genetic, I was always doing something, and as Law Enforcement, especially K-9 handler, I was "working" most of the time. My duty was not sitting in a car and occassionally writing a ticket, or at some gate exercising just my arm to allow vehicles onto the base. No, I had K-9 duties, walks in the housing area, walks on the flightline, walks through dorms, and we all had to keep track of the time that we trained with our MWDs. In Panama I was out in the jungle, walking (at times running) to or away from something.
The weight gain happened slowly, but I could see it coming on. I can actually feel the medication slowing me down. When I miss a dose I start to "rev up" and usually my husband will ask if I have taken my meds. My speech increases to Olympic-speed. I miss the energy, and trying to take other meds to counter the down that I get only makes things worse for other issues.
I didn't notice that I unconsciously liked the weight gain. I found that  my figure was not being mentioned, I was not being looked at by guys here and there, and I had the feeling that I was not attractive to others, but inside I appreciated this. I had associated my figure with all the negative responses I endured. But then there is the feeling of "I let myself go", that I no longer can fit into the same clothes that I used to, and the mass media push to be the thinnest possible.
I was not on the fence about the weight, just depended on the day, if the depression was on the high end it bothered me, if not I did not think twice about it. I heard that there are questions you are never supposed to ask as woman - how old she is and what does she weigh. If I can remember my age, which at times my husband must remind me I am not that age, I am older or younger than what I have said. This is not that I want to be older or younger, I actually do forget how old I am. I can remember when I was born (the year) so instead of automatically saying what it is I do at times try and add to be close (side effect of head injuries from the military). But I really do not know how much that I weigh. I don't go by numbers, they are arbitrary, a number that looks a little heavy on one person does not on another, even if their height is the same. I have small bones, so any amount can be seen. But like I said I do not go by numbers. I go by what clothes I can fit into and which ones are a little too tight.
I could cut off all the meds and my body would return to what it was (did it once, not a smart thing), but I would rather be functionable and this weight (whatever that is) than to fit into my high school jeans and not function. It is a trade off. Many other survivors have commented on wanting to ditch the meds because of the weight, and I understand that want, but what is better?
So it is a cycle, you gain a little weight on antidepressants, you are not happy about it and the depression is fed, so you up the dose and gain a little more weight. At the same time the antidepressants are not uppers, they do not supply you with energy, just help the dark feelings stay controllable, so you do not have some extra, or even the regular energy to do what you used to be able to do.
As a woman,  I know the pressure of the weight dilemma, as you get older it is easier for the weight to stay on (especially after having children) but the meds add so much more.
There was a time that I went to the nutritionist at the VA, I wanted to know what I could do for the side-effect of weight gain. So the overweight chain-smoking VA nutritionist pulled off the computer the new "plate" for what to eat. That was the end of asking the VA for help. So I have had to make it something that I put on a list, something that I am working on, everyday. I am not on a diet (take off the t and that's what I feel about that). But I have changed my eating habits, it is a life habit change, not some grapefruit mush to choke down for 10 days.
It is another added issue to having PTSD, what the meds do. There are other types of medications that others take for PTSD (not everything works for everyone) which cause other side effects that also add other issues to what you are already dealing with.
What I would like is a discussion of what to do, not a pharmacist to talk about the side effects, but actual help in how to incorporate the medications into my life with the least amount of side effects. It's not a replacement for what the pharmacist does, but should be in addition to.
There are nutritionist , VA ones which would be so helpful to me, and be able to do what it is I asked for, but as everyone can tell you, not all VA facilities are the same, even when they offer the same program, it depends a lot on the person who runs that program, and unfortunately I am stuck with this one for the time being.
It is not about adding some exercise program to my day either, it would have been nice prior to being prescribed the medications for someone to have sat down with me and gone over the side effects, especially the weight one because that seems to be one many many have. Someone who can see the other medications and talk about the interactions they could have, someone who could see that PTSD is not my only service-connected disability, to talk to me about me, not in some general aspect, but me with all that I have coming to the table.
So others that have the same side effect, you are not alone. It is not you, you are not lazy, you did not "let yourself go" it is just another side effect of dealing with issues many people do not understand.

I get asked a lot why are all the numbers all over the board about MST. The VA says - 1 in 4, the military's - less than 7%, other sites - 20%, why are all the numbers so off? One of the mistakes many people do when looking at the stats is not looking at where the numbers come from. The VA's come from veteran users of the VA system that when asked the question about MST, their answer was yes. Does that mean that everyone who says "no" did not experience MST? No, not at all. It depends on who is asking the question, when it is asked and if the veteran wants to disclose.
As I have read on the VA sites this question is asked once, well I am sure that I am not the only one who has been asked the question more than once. In fact I get asked the question - during annual exams, upon meeting a new provider, periodically during appointments, and so forth. It does not matter that I have been in the VA system almost 25 years, and from the very beginning it was listed in my records that I was sexually assaulted. Not all veterans know they can receive treatment which related to their MST experience(s), even if they are not otherwise eligible for care at the VA. And not all veterans are eligible for care at the VA.

So the VA's stats (most) come from disclosure of the veteran who is using the VA system.

Other sites utilize a limited understanding of MST, thinking that it only involves rape. Plus their stats are even less viable since most do not have the ability to know who is and who is not a veteran. Many of their numbers are derived from within and out of the military, and only for sexual assaults.

The militaries numbers are from the sexual assaults which are reported, under both their reporting choices - restricted and unrestricted.

One part of MST experiences which is overlooked is sexual harassment. And unfortunately many sexual assaults are reported under sexual harassment. In the military there is two distinctive agencies which separate what is considered a crime, and what is sexual harassment. One to law enforcement, the other to EEOC (formerly called Social Actions). There have been many reports of sexual harassment that once heard should have been directed to law enforcement because it was a crime, but they were just taken as sexual harassment complaints, and even if founded, were never taken to law enforcement.

MST is the experience of sexual assaults and sexual harassment (that is repetitive and threatening in character). There lies the problem, numbers coming from single sources, for a complexities of experience from different agencies. I have yet to see anyone talk about the numbers of sexual harassment complaints when discussing the stats for MST survivors.